“Am I your priority” does not mean “am I your everything?”
By about a year in to marriage, I had made my peace with the fact that I had married “one of those.” You know the kind you hear about. The extra needy wife. It felt like no matter how hard I tried to love her or how much I gave, it was never enough.
Then I learned about THE QUESTION [see previous post] and it all became wonderfully clear.
My wife isn’t extra needy and her love tank isn’t a bottomless pit. I simply wasn’t filling it right.
It’s the 80/20 rule.
If you’re not informing your wife from day to day -with words & actions- that she’s your priority, you will spend 80% of your energy trying to love her and yield 20% fruit in your marriage.
Here’s the beauty of it though. And I’ll put a guarantee on this one.
If you make her feel like your priority, you will spend 20% of your energy and reap 80% fruit.
